“it [love] keeps no record of wrongs.”- 1 Cor 13:5

Love keeps no record of wrongs.  Love is not resentful is what the ESV Bible says.

How often do you keep track of how many people wrong you?

Think about all the relationships you have and what comes to mind?

Do you often find yourself thinking about all the ways that you have been wronged in your relationships?  Do you remember specific times where someone said something horrible, or did something mean, or forgot about you?

That is resentment.

Love drives that out.

Here is the the dangerous thing about resentment.  It can overtake love.  You might love someone immensely, but the minute you start to let resentment come in, or the minute you start to remember the bad things done to you, thats the minute that battle between resentment and love begins.

So often in relationships resentment ends up winning.  So often we only remember the bad.  We don’t let ourselves remember the good things, and it gets so bad that there is no memory of the good things.

So this issue of resentment is not just a little problem.  I believe it is a problem that could very well destroy a relationship.  Think of the broken relationships you know of.  Ended marriages that ended only after years of built up resentment, where the couple can’t remember why they got married in the first place.

To truly love someone you have to be willing to not keep track of the wrongs.  To forget the wrongs.  For some of us that sounds impossible.  I think there are two reasons for this;

lack of love,

and not asking God for help to truly love.

If one of those things are happening it is likely that you will struggle with loving someone without resentment.

Your love will begin to become this thing where you give out your love along with a bill.

That every time you love any other person in any way, you will begin to keep track of what you do, while thinking they owe you something.

Resentment is one of the most destructive forces in love. Choose to forget.  Or choose to love the person no matter what.  Make those thoughts of resentment submit to Christ when you get them.  Constantly ask God to overcome and take away that resentment for you.  Do whatever it takes to not allow yourself to become a debt collector with your love.

 

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“Love bears all things” 1 Cor 13:7.

The idea of love bearing all things brings a few different ideas to mind.

The first idea I got was the idea of just be able to deal with someone no matter how much hate they showed you.  But I don’t think that this verse is talking about that.

I think this verse makes more sense when we look at something Paul said in Galatians 6:2;

“Bear one another’s burdens, and so fulfill the law of Christ.”

I think love causes us to help one another no matter what.

I think right here when it says love bears all things, its not talking about finding a person bearable.

It is talking about loving someone so much that their burdens become your burdens.  So much so that we bear all things with the people we are trying to love.  That there is no problem in any person’s life that we will not bear through with them.

This can be one of the most meaningful places for love.  This is when you know who really loves you.  When the person shows up at a funeral of your family member to make sure you’re alright.

Or when a friend helps you move.

Love bears all things when people are willing to bear all things with one another.  Not just the pleasant things.  Not just some of the hard things.  But all of the hard things.

If we choose to start having a love that bears all things, not just some of the things, or not just some of things until they get us tired out, then our love will start to mean something to people.  People will begin to feel loved, and know what true love really is.

 


“it [love} does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth.” – 1 Cor 13:6

This one makes sense but it also takes some thinking to know what this one means.  Or how we live or don’t live it out.

If we really love someone we won’t rejoice when they are wronged.

I remember times in my life where I had friendships or relationships with people, and I did rejoice in wrong being done to them.  Times where people who I thought needed to know that they weren’t the smartest or the best.  And then something happened to that person to highlight the character flaw I saw in them, and I would initially rejoice in that.

Or times where I wished that someone that dumped me, or didn’t like me would get their heart broken.  So that they could no how it feels to be heart broken, or rejected.  Or even worse times that after I wished that to myself, seeing the bad  thing I wished happen later in life, and rejoicing that the heart break or rejection happened to that person.

I think the first part of this verse makes sense to us.  And we can even find so many areas of life where we don’t love people in this way.  Where when someone we think deserved to be wronged gets wronged, and we become very happy and think all is now right with the world.

That is not love.  That is almost hate or maybe it even is hate.  And I do that too often.

But what about the second part of the verse, rejoicing with the truth.

I think that is a confusing statement.

But maybe it is talking about truths that God has laid out for us.

The truth is we are called to love everyone.

And when we allow ourselves to rejoice in wrongdoing we are not loving everyone.

Also God loves everyone.  And the way he sees people is vastly different then we see people.  God does not rejoice when people are wronged.  At least I don’t think he does.  And if we wanna be like God, if we are becoming like God, we can’t let ourselves fall into the hateful way of rejoicing when people are wronged.

This verse was a little bit harder for me to understand. And I might have it totally off.  But I was trying to think of it in terms of any kind of relationship.  Feel free to enlighten me if you have some better ideas as to what it means.