Confessing My Sins Online

November 16, 2010

So I pretty much finished the love series. There is one more description of love I have to do. But I am going to save it. Maybe you know which one it is, and why I want to save it.

In the meantime I am going to start a new blog series.

Its going to be some blogs where I take some time to confess some of my daily sins that I struggle with.

I don’t know why else I want to do this other than the fact that it will be potentially healing for me, and potentially healing for others as we begin to look at our brokeness, and realize God’s forgiveness and ability to change those things over time.

So the first sin I want to confess is that I am too judgemental.

It’s really bad.

I judge so many people’s motives.

I often find myself thinking about people doing things, and convince myself they were doing it out of sinfulness.  Or people will choose to do things that aren’t sinful, but I will treat that non-sinful act as sin.  Like selling a textbook to a Christian friend rather than giving it away for free.

Do you see what I did there?

It is totally cool to sell your text books.  Nothing sinful about it.  No matter who you are selling your textbooks to.

This is a common phenomenon in our Christian culture though isn’t it?

We sit around and talk about how different Christians, ministries, or churches could do a better job at ________________.

I hate being part of those conversations.  Unless they are ministries that I am directly in and can affect, I don’t think I want to be part of those conversations.

I want to be part of conversations that talk about how we can strengthen the Christians around us.

How we can strengthen the ministries in our lives.

And how we can strengthen the Church. (people church not building church)

Let’s get into conversations like that.

Let’s judge less, and only when judging is what will edify the church.

Mostly though, I think for me, most of my judging is tearing down love God has put in my heart.  And I don’t want to tear down anything God has built.

Or it’s letting haughtyness rise in my heart. And I don’t want to grow or cultivate that.

God, forgive me for thinking I can judge everyone for all of their actions. Humble me.  Let me realize where I am judging wrongly.  Let me know and understand your forgiveness.  Let me judge only to edify.  Spirit fill me and empower me to do this.

“[ love ] believes all things” – 1 Cor 13:7

Honestly. I don’t understand this phrasing.

One commentary I read said that it basically means believing the best about someone.

I just don’t get why it’s written like that then.  If I believe all things how does that equate to believing the best about someone?

But I do love the phrase and principle about believing the best. I think it is a very loving thing to believe the best.

Think about it, how often are we driving, and someone cuts us off, or someone does some other traffic maneuver that we don’t like, and we get mad, call them a jerk, or an idiot or a dumb driver or whatever.

but what if

That person just had a really bad day?  What if they are usually a good driver but something that could happen to anyone happened to them?  What if they just found out they had cancer?  What if they’re driving to a funeral?

But we don’t love people in this way.  We don’t try to believe good about someone, that they might be a good driver usually but right now they’re not.

You  might say it’s unrealistic to believe the best in someone.  That people aren’t awesome and don’t deserve good thoughts about them sometimes.  And I would completely agree with you.

Believing the best in someone is not realistic.  But neither is love.

Believing the best is not a works based thing.  But that why it is a loving act to believe the best.

So I don’t know if that verse means to believe the best in someone, but I took the time in this post to talk about it, because believing the best is something I am totally for.